Preparing yourself to go out there again can seem difficult. Especially if it has been a long time since you were last involved in a romantic relationship.
Surely moving on after a bad breakup is difficult, but it is not impossible. It is absolutly fine to feel confused, angry, sad, or guilty about how your last relationship ended. However, it is essential to remember that a breakup is not the end of everything. There are several ways that you may employ to cope with the pain and prepare yourself for a new beginning. Below are some useful tips that can help you resume your dating game.
Do not rush with the healing process.
Before springing back onto the dating game, it is vital to ensure and confirm with yourself that you have healed and can now handle the inevitable highs and lows of love. Look for signs that may indicate you are not prepared to date again - like, if you still end up calling or texting your ex when you are sad.
Avoid discussing the breakup or your ex on a date.
This should go without saying, but discussing your breakup or your ex on a date is an absolute NO-NO! Do not even think of talking about it until you get serious with someone. If you get angry or emotional, it might ruin your date’s mood. It is unnecessary to discuss past relationships on your date unless you are willing to pursue a romantic relationship with them. But in case you feel your bond is growing stronger with them, you must discuss your past relationships.
Reflect on what you are looking for in a romantic partner
With enough experience from your previous relationship, you can objectively evaluate what things worked well for you and what didn’t — properly utilize the lessons you learned from your mistakes to find the perfect partner for yourself.
Do not compare your date with your ex.
After a breakup, when you get back on the dating scene, it may seem tempting to compare all your dates with your ex — but that is an unhealthy habit, and you should eliminate it ASAP. It is a big ‘Red Flag’ and at times a hard-to-break habit. It can offend the person you are on a date with, and it does not yield anything positive.
Take it slow
If you often find yourself hopping from one relationship to another, it is particularly vital for you to remember to take it slow after a bad breakup. Do not force yourself constantly to go out on dates or get involved in a romantic relationship too quickly. You must not rush to get back on the dating scene.
Remember to not be too hard on yourself about trying to fall in love again. Consider taking your time alone to heal before proceeding for a date.
