From growing tolerance to observing our own emotions, here are a few habits to practice to overcome emotional monitoring.
A lot of us have the habit of emotional monitoring. It grows from extreme anxiety of feeling emotionally safe. In order to achieve that, we have developed the habit of keeping a check on what others are feeling, to go on with their mood. This, however, makes us push ourselves later on the priority list and make others’ emotions our priority. “You might have developed a hyper sense of awareness to other people's mood and most importantly, mood changes,” wrote therapist Israa Nasir as she explained emotional monitoring and how it can harm us emotionally.
Israa further shared a few habits that we can practice to overcome emotional monitoring and how we can put ourselves and our own emotions as the priority:
View this post on Instagram
Pause and observe: We need to become aware of the way we are feeling. We need to take a pause and observe how we are feeling and introspect if we are feeling this because of someone else’s emotions.
Separation: We need to learn to separate our feelings from those of others. That way we will know which is our emotion, and which is an emotion influenced by other person’s emotions. This will further help in feeling more empathy towards us and protecting our emotional energy.
Patterns: We need to closely observe the patterns we follow, the kind of interactions we do, and what we anticipate. This will help us understand the kind of emotional care-taking that we are doing. The more we know the pattern, the better we can shatter it.
Regulation: We need to learn to regulate the body and activate the parasympathetic nervous system. This means taking a walk, or removing ourselves from situations that can act as a trigger for us or taking deep breaths. Once the parasympathetic nervous system is regulated, we feel a lot calmer and at peace.
Tolerance: We need to learn to tolerate difficult emotions. Rather than engaging with the urge to predict or assume the emotions of others, we should learn to tolerate whatsoever may come on the way.
Disclaimer: This Article is auto-generated from the HT news service
