At the end of the day, outgrowing is not anyone’s fault but a part of life
As we journey through life, we undergo a constant process of growth and transformation. Each experience, revelation, and personal realization shapes us into the individuals we are becoming. But as we evolve, our relationships don't remain static either. They ebb and flow, adapting to the changes within us and around us.
Imagine that life is like putting together a big puzzle. Each person you know is like a piece of that puzzle. You fit together with them in different ways, creating a picture of your life.
Now, think about what happens when you grow and change. It's like one of your puzzle pieces changing its shape. Suddenly, it might not fit with the other pieces like it used to.
Just like with a puzzle, when you change, your relationships can feel a bit off. The way you connect with people might not be the same anymore. You might need to move things around to make them fit better.
It's important to recognize that these shifts in our relationships are not inherently negative.
Just as adjusting a piece in a puzzle may require rearranging to fit perfectly, so too can the evolution of our connections lead to greater depth, understanding, and fulfillment. It is also okay if one puzzle does not fit anymore. You can either change the entire puzzle or change the pece that does not fit. Either way, the puzzle making has to keep going. Such is life and its relationships with people.
Such is when you out grow a person. Even if you have known them for years, the change might come eventually. Again, no fingers are to be pointed. Sometimes people change and their values no longer align, their principles don’t match. Basically, your vibes change as you grow.
But how can you tell you have outgrown someone? Here are a few signs
Talking to someone who was once easy now feels forced and awkward. You struggle to find common ground or topics to discuss, leading to uncomfortable silences.
Interactions with this person no longer stimulate you mentally or emotionally. Conversations feel shallow and uninteresting, lacking the depth and engagement they once had.
You find yourself making excuses to avoid spending time with them. Activities you used to enjoy together now seem unappealing, and you'd rather do something else than hang out with them.
You feel hesitant to share your achievements or successes because you doubt they'll understand or appreciate them. This reluctance to open up can create a sense of distance and disconnect in the relationship.
Spending time with them feels dull and uninspiring. You find yourself daydreaming or wishing you were doing something more engaging or enjoyable instead.
You and the other person seem to be moving in different directions. Your values, goals, and interests no longer align, leading to a sense of disconnect and dissonance in your interactions.
Small disagreements escalate into bigger arguments, creating tension and conflict in your relationship. It feels like you're always at odds with each other, unable to find common ground or resolution.
Major life events or changes in circumstances can sometimes strain or alter friendships. If you or your friend undergo significant life changes that affect your priorities, interests, or values, it may lead to a natural drift apart.
Healthy friendships are built on respect and support. If you consistently feel belittled, disrespected, or hurt by your friend's words or actions, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship.
