It is imperative for us to surround ourselves with kind spirited, competent people who aren’t prone to attract drama, if we are to live a happy and fulfilling life. Many of us are often exposed to the proverbial ‘real’ nature of another person which proves to be completely different from what they seemed. It’s a slippery slope. How to know for a fact that the ‘real’ nature of the said person could be different from what they appear? Here are a few things that might give us an idea of how to know if the person is worth our while. Now, before we get into that we have to keep in mind that these points may reveal certain negative thoughts about people near and dear to us, our peers, colleagues, romantic or business partners. We must not judge them by just one instance, but if we keep having recurring feelings of exhaustion and dejection, signs would be telling us we probably are better off without them. Are they a team player? This is perhaps one of the most important questions to ask while deciding whether a person is suitable for you to partner up or will the person only serve himself in the partnership. If a person treats others according to their position in the power dynamics, or their rank, chances are they are here to serve self interest. People who are kind and trustworthy will always boost our confidence and effectiveness. It is mostly about virtues outweighing the vices. Do they blame everything that happens to them on the world? This is one of the most important parameters to understand a person and how they interact with the world around them. People who are always in the middle of drama and are the common denominator amidst a series of unfortunate dramatic events, in all probability they are the ones causing it. Generally people who claim to hate all the drama are the ones bringing in the drama in the equation. It would be best to distance ourselves from all that drama. That might turn your peaceful and tranquil life into a toxic one. Can you trust them? If you are surrounded with people whom you cannot really trust, your life will start losing its stability. There are people who would have us believe in white lies for no apparent reason. If that happens, we must know that there is a big chance they might end up lying to us for absolute wrong reasons. The take-away here is to have a set of standards while deciding who you should associate with.
