Relationships could be a harrowing journey for both partners if commitment issues are not resolved at the earliest
People with commitment phobia are reluctant to emotionally invest in relationships and most definitely hesitant to confess their love to their romantic partners. In monogamous relationships, people with issues to commit will often flinch from maintaining a steady, linear progression. Commitment phobia could be alienating, painful and isolating and could encroach upon the other aspects of life. Nonetheless, a strategic approach could be implemented to take the edge off the gripping fear.
Analysing the Root of this Fear
Once the origin of this fear is recognised and subsequently the issues are addressed, one could be better equipped to eliminate the signs eventually. Nonchalance towards commitment could stem from unfulfilled desires, childhood trauma, loss of a person, poverty, sustained struggle with adversities and so forth. Addressing the issues lets one wonder if there is at all any sense in brooding over past events.
Subjectively Perceiving Others’ Experience
Internalising others’ trauma and grief narrative and zeroing in on their failures could result in negative consequences. One tends to live in others’ narratives and lose grip on reality. It eventually leads to trauma, anxiety and flight response to romantic propositions that demand any degree of emotional investment.
Establishing Meaningful Communication with Partner
Shying away from communicating the problems to pledge loyalty could flare up the circumstances. If one persists with deliberate distancing, it could prevent experiencing any constructive pleasure and emotional stability from the relationship and the underlying issues behind every break-up would remain unattended to. With communication, both the individuals would know the intensity of their wants and the persisting conflicting issues disrupting mutual harmony. Therefore, putting efforts into conveying feelings, connecting on a deeper and spiritual level or taking resort to relationship counselling would be prudent.
Using the Resources Offered by Therapy
Therapy is, of course, not the last resort and should not be opted for only when everything else fails. People who have registered their deliberate unwillingness to give in to a romantic relationship should seek professional assistance. Both couples’ therapy and individual sessions should effectively probe into the feeling of unease, detachment, anxiety, perplexity, fickle-mindedness and propensity to ghost in romantic relationships.
Working on psychological traumas that influence personality traits is possible only when the individual is not passively aggressive about brushing aside the problems. Time, resources and awareness are decisive factors pertinent to the success of this journey.
